Dating Site Blog Free Swingers Guide If you are having problems in your relationship, you first instinct is an urge to push ahead and do whatever you can to keep your relationship from slipping away. This may sound unconventional, but the best thing to do is to let her go, awful as this sounds. You need to let her go, because if she is the right woman for you, you can get her back with just three step. If she is NOT the right woman for you, then here's the news you will appreciate down the road when you DO meet Mrs. Right - she did you a favor by going away, and you learned something very valuable in the process. So here are three steps on how to get your partner back:
Step 1: Step Back. The very first thing you need to do to get your partner back is resist the powerful urge to run after her, call her, text her, send messages to her via friends and family, or show up at her door. This is going to be incredibly difficult, but you MUST do it if there is any hope that you will get your partner back.
We women tend to think that giving and giving to a woman will bring her closer to us. This includes doing things like "casually" checking up on her to see how she's doing. This is called "over functioning". Don't do it! Most people are accustomed to valuing what they have to work for. So if you put in effort and make it easy for her, she will actually value you less. We work hard because we think that if we don't she'll assume we don't care enough about her and go away. But this is not true!. If you step back and let go of the reigns, you give your partner the chance to see what it feels like to be without you, and if she's worth it you will get her back. A woman will commit to you not because they want to be with a woman, but because they can't stand to be WITHOUT you. Let her feel what it's like NOT to have you in her life.
Step 2: Let Your Heart Be Open. The next thing I want you to do is to stop running from your painful emotions and embrace them. We women tend to stuff down our emotions for fear that a someone will get scared by them and run away. But the real truth is that we, as lesbians LOVE our emotional nature - it's drama that is not wanted! When we learn to get in touch with our feelings and express them in a non-judging, non-critical way, a woman will not feel blamed and will feel COMPELLED to open her heart to you.
It is important t know that you don't need a woman in your life to learn how to do this. Instead, practice "framing your feelings" with everyone you meet and even on your own. Start right now by asking yourself what you feel. Then say it out loud. Say, "I feel shaky," or "I feel sad," or "I feel happy just looking at that flower over there." Practice this everywhere you go, and it will become natural to you in days. Then when you talk to the woman you love, use this new way of expressing your feelings. You'll notice a miraculous change in the way she connects to you and opens her heart.
Step 3: Do Not Forget To Love Yourself. Think back to the time when you and your partner first met. Where you obsessing about her? Where you calling her non-stop? Of course not. Chances are, you were focused on your OWN LIFE, and this was very attractive to her.
Take this opportunity to get back in touch with you and fall in love with the woman who attracted her instead of spending your time thinking about how to get your girlfriend back. Get busy with your friends, your interests, and the things that make you YOU. Remember: you can lose a woman, but you can NEVER lose yourself. If this woman is worthy of you and is the right one for you, when she sees you are focusing on your own life she will realize what he's missing.
Step 1: Step Back. The very first thing you need to do to get your partner back is resist the powerful urge to run after her, call her, text her, send messages to her via friends and family, or show up at her door. This is going to be incredibly difficult, but you MUST do it if there is any hope that you will get your partner back.
We women tend to think that giving and giving to a woman will bring her closer to us. This includes doing things like "casually" checking up on her to see how she's doing. This is called "over functioning". Don't do it! Most people are accustomed to valuing what they have to work for. So if you put in effort and make it easy for her, she will actually value you less. We work hard because we think that if we don't she'll assume we don't care enough about her and go away. But this is not true!. If you step back and let go of the reigns, you give your partner the chance to see what it feels like to be without you, and if she's worth it you will get her back. A woman will commit to you not because they want to be with a woman, but because they can't stand to be WITHOUT you. Let her feel what it's like NOT to have you in her life.
Step 2: Let Your Heart Be Open. The next thing I want you to do is to stop running from your painful emotions and embrace them. We women tend to stuff down our emotions for fear that a someone will get scared by them and run away. But the real truth is that we, as lesbians LOVE our emotional nature - it's drama that is not wanted! When we learn to get in touch with our feelings and express them in a non-judging, non-critical way, a woman will not feel blamed and will feel COMPELLED to open her heart to you.
It is important t know that you don't need a woman in your life to learn how to do this. Instead, practice "framing your feelings" with everyone you meet and even on your own. Start right now by asking yourself what you feel. Then say it out loud. Say, "I feel shaky," or "I feel sad," or "I feel happy just looking at that flower over there." Practice this everywhere you go, and it will become natural to you in days. Then when you talk to the woman you love, use this new way of expressing your feelings. You'll notice a miraculous change in the way she connects to you and opens her heart.
Step 3: Do Not Forget To Love Yourself. Think back to the time when you and your partner first met. Where you obsessing about her? Where you calling her non-stop? Of course not. Chances are, you were focused on your OWN LIFE, and this was very attractive to her.
Take this opportunity to get back in touch with you and fall in love with the woman who attracted her instead of spending your time thinking about how to get your girlfriend back. Get busy with your friends, your interests, and the things that make you YOU. Remember: you can lose a woman, but you can NEVER lose yourself. If this woman is worthy of you and is the right one for you, when she sees you are focusing on your own life she will realize what he's missing.
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